October 6, 2016 by Jeff Lowen
For some reason most of us resist change. Yet, we will all agree that change is something that is one of the only things we can bet on! Sort of an ‘oxymoron,’ huh?
Things happen in our lives that throw the droves of stress on our backs. Then, as if we’ve had about as much as we can take, we begin to remember those one-liner proverbs we knew as a child… “When it rains, it pours…” “Things always happen in threes…” And other B.S. statements that have earned about as much truth as watching a TV commercial on cold meds and waking up in the morning with the flu!
Yeah, I’m a little bent about all that, but the fact remains, no matter how you slice it; we attach meaning to everything and whatever “That” meaning is, is what we live. So here’s a few – as in four – tips to turn the 😦 in your life into 🙂
1. Put yourself first
Take care of yourself! I speak with lots of people and for some reason, their employees or their children or their spouses come first. Hello??? McFly! If you are no good yourself, no one else can benefit from your amazing energy and what good is that? That’s not being selfish – that’s being smart. Feed your soul with good stuff so you can pay it forward and share with those you love!
2. Become one with the Universe
No, I’m not talking about spending a month in Tibet, although I talked about that with a good friend once! You must take frequent assessments of yourself and your emotions. I heard a quote that hit the spot: “Announcing, ‘I’m offended’ is basically telling the world you can’t control your own emotions, so everyone else should do it for you!” Learn to be better at mastering your emotions. You can start by knowing that you are in charge! Yes SH** happens, but understand the emotions you have are a guide to help you figure things out. So assess how you are handling them on a daily basis and resolve to get better at it.
3. Support groups, my A**!
I’m not a big believer in support groups. I’ve been to many and all they seem to do is continue to dig up bones and re-hash the crap that got us there in the first place! Find some peeps that have been through what you’re going through and discuss SOLUTIONS!! If you find you’re constantly talking about the problems – then problems are all that you’ll have. Read up on Shad Helmstetter’s The Self-Talk Solution.
4. Meditation Station
I’m a meditator. Whether you are – or praying or whatever you do is your gig, we as humans have the connection at some level to find the answers within. So spend some quiet time with NO DISTRACTIONS to allow the answers to surface. At the very least, you’ll appreciate the quiet and it will re-energize you. When my kids were young, I’d go in the garage and sit in my car. I managed to sneak in a few minutes before they found me!
Be very conscious about what is bouncing around in your head. If you start to tell yourself something that doesn’t serve you, STOP IT! Replace it with something positive and uplifting. Dr. Shad Helmstetter (Google him) is a pioneer in self-talk. Learn about it!
These tips should help you be a better you. And in the end, that’s what we all want, anyway. Especially the people in your life that you care about! They all want you to be the best you, you can be!